Stop Comparing

Parent/teacher conferences are going on. What are the odds that there would be parents who meet with a teacher and ask, "How is my kid doing?" and have the teacher say, "I'd say about average. Your kid is right in the middle of the pack."

Then they go to their kid's soccer coach. "How's my kid doing?" "Your kid is average. I'd say half are better, half are worse."

Then they go to their kid's tutor who specializes in preparing for the SATs. "How's my kid doing?" "I think you can expect right about the 50th percentile."

What are the odds those parents respond to that by saying, "That's great!  I have a normal kid. My kid is average - right in the sweet spot of God's bell curve!"?

Not likely.

It turns out when we ask the question, "How's my kid doing?" there's always a little qualifier attached: the phrase, "Compared to the other kids." We have a way of measuring our performance, our identity, even our value and self-worth compared to the others. We need to stop doing that.

Here are some questions for you to consider:

First, "Who are you comparing yourself to?" I invite you to think about this one for a bit. I probably wouldn't compare myself financially to Bill Gates or somebody like that. More likely it'd be a person down the hall or down the street - somebody close by. Just be really honest about this question with yourself.

Next, ask yourself "Why am I angry?", "What is it I really want?", "Who would my best self be?". 

Then, ask yourself these questions that go a different direction:

"What is the joy God has for me?", "What are the gifts God has given to me?", "What is the task God has assigned me?"

God hasn't asked you to be somebody else. You don't have to be like Bill Gates, or a celebrity, or the neighbors. God is calling you to be you.

I promise you there's joy in loving the people around you and doing the things God has called you to do and giving the gifts God has called you to give and stretching the gifts God has given you to stretch. I promise you there's joy. That's what we are talking about today.

Prayer - Who Are You Talking To?

Proximity and relationship determine how you talk to people. Your familiarity with someone determines your how you converse with them.

People you don't know particularly well you tend to be more formal and guarded in language and have only superficial relationships with, while people you know very well you can be very casual and direct with, and have very deep relationships with.

The same goes with God. Your understanding of God shapes everything in your life, including your prayer.

There are plenty of misconceptions about God. Here is a short list.

  • Some people think God is grumpy, cranky, angry, upset all the time, and unable to be pleased.
  • Some people have the "crouching tiger" god - ready to pounce when you make a wrong move.
  • Some think of God as the cosmic cop whose goal is to make sure you follow the rules; or a dictator, always demanding more and more; or the Santa Claus god, where he's making a list and checking it twice.
  • Some people have what I call the Play-Doh god, which is where you make him into any form you want at that time.
  • Some people say, "I like to think of God as..."

Well, I'm sorry it doesn't really matter what you like to think. When it comes to God, it's what is He really like,  not what you like to think of Him as. 
It's important that you know the real God. If you have a misconception about God, prayer is going to be boring for you - something you have to do out of guilt, or duty. Don't guilt yourself into praying, God doesn't want you to pray out of guilt. 

The better you understand God and his nature, the better your prayer life and relationship with him will be.

Prayer: Spiritual Growth

Prayer: Spiritual Growth

It's important that we focus on prayer and spiritual growth, because most of our problems come from spiritual immaturity. When we're not spiritually mature, we make bad decisions. We base decisions on how we feel - which is a terrible way to make decisions. Our feelings are wrong a lot of the time, and we're manipulated by our moods. Mature people make decisions based on truth, not on feelings. Many of the problems in our world happen because of immaturity.
Growth is God's will for your life. Babies and kids are cute, but a child that doesn't grow up is tragic. It is possible to grow old and never grow up. I know a lot of people who are spiritually and emotionally immature. They grew old without growing up. God doesn’t want you to stay a baby, He wants you to  be a mature person of God.